Emotional effects of online dating

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Remember what it is you've always wanted from your marriage, and start considering the large, determined commitment that is absolutely necessary to creating a happy marriage.

Most of us won't fall in love in cyber space, yet we find it okay to share a different kind of space with friends of the opposite sex.

Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and conventional wisdom both suggest that love is a fundamental human need. A survey conducted in 2013 found that 77% of people considered it “very important” to have their smartphones with them at all times.

Most people meet their significant others through their social circles or work/school functions. In the search for a potential date, more and more people are switching to less traditional methods. With the rise and rise of apps like Tinder (and the various copycat models) who could blame them.

But then one cold night in November, I met a Match date in a bar in Greenwich Village.

I had a date for the next Saturday night for seven years.

But is dating online that different from the traditional methods on a psychological level?

For those actively looking for a relationship (or at least no-strings fun), there is no shortage of websites available, from straight up dating sites like OKCupid, e Harmony and Match to niche communities like Tastebuds (music matching), JDate (for Jewish singles) and even the eyebrow raising Clown Passions (you can guess).

Online dating presents an effective solution to a serious problem.

When you find yourself getting irritated with what I have to say, consider: Why does it bother you? If these relationships aren't as "damaging" as I say, because you say you don't find them that important and they aren't going to lead anywhere, then prove it to yourself by letting go of them.

If they don't mean that much to you, why the irritation when I ask you to cut back on these friendships?

We discuss our problems, air out our issues, and settle disagreements with our business colleagues. What's the harm in a man having a casual friendship with a woman when either is married?

Surely, every friendship doesn't lead to an affair.

More and more of us insist on outsourcing our love-lives to spreadsheets and algorithms.

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